The year I turned 38, I decided I would give myself the gift of a meditation practice. With the birth of my third son, I had heard too many times… “enjoy your kids, life goes by so fast.” Starting a meditation practice was my way of addressing this. If I could train my mind to be more still, calm and present; maybe time would feel like it was going by more slowly? Also, my hope was that practicing meditation would help me with patience (for myself and my kids)! Four years later, it is easy to see that my gift was truly a gift. I’m more grounded. It’s easier to get out of my head and be present to life as it unfolds. By NO means am I a “zen” mother walking around accepting every moment of messes and sibling fights. I struggle like everyone. But, meditation is a tool in my toolbox that certainly has helped.

The Definition of Meditation

One of my favorite definitions of meditation is: developing the ability to more skillfully use our minds to bring benefits to both ourselves and the world around us. It’s a form of mental development – or developing the skill or ability to stabilize the mind and not let it wander off and stay wandered off in thought. For example, you may begin thinking about “they didn’t have milk at the grocery.” That then leads to “what if they don’t have eggs, too?” Then, you remember that you didn’t tip the grocery shopper that brought your groceries last week. Now, you’re feeling inadequate and embarrassed. All emotions caused by the initial thought “they didn’t have milk at the grocery store, today.”  Sound familiar? You’ve gotten caught up thoughts. And, THAT, wasn’t really helpful.

Reducing Stress with a Meditation Practice

The series of thought processes described above is called “layering.” It’s often these ceaseless thoughts that cause daily, unnecessary stress. When something negative occurs in life, (like me yelling at my kids), our mind’s tendency is to think about it again, and again. In general, we have three kinds of thoughts – negative, neutral or positive. Thoughts are always followed with an emotion or feeling in our body. From a stress-reduction standpoint (or suffering), negative thoughts induce negative physiological changes in our body. Your blood pressure rises, muscles tense, and we release adrenaline and cortisol.  What most of us try to do when this happens is to stop the feelings. We might try to repress them, distract ourselves or eat a pack of jelly donuts. During meditation, our thoughts constantly pull us out of our meditative state, but those distractive thoughts are the opportunity to practice stabilizing the mind. And, overtime, this helps us with those stress-inducing thoughts in the real world.

Meditation Apps to Get You Started

When I started my meditation practice, I used the app, Headspace. There is no wrong or right way to get started with/maintain a meditation practice. Very often, when my mind feels too “busy” to meditate, I will use a guided meditation to ground myself. This is not cheating! It’s simply an opportunity to let the words of another guide you into a more calm place and space. Other meditation apps to check out include: Insight Timer and Calm.

Interview with Seasoned Meditation Practitioner, Ben Smith

If this what you’ve pictured meditation is…

 

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you’ll benefit from my interview with seasoned meditation practitioner, Ben Smith, we cover how to start a meditation practice and myths and misconceptions about meditation. If there was ever a time for reflection and paying attention to our body’s messengers – it is now. Meditation is a tool to help you do that very thing. Let us know if YOU meditate and why.

Watch my conversation with seasoned meditation practitioner, Ben Smith 


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Jennifer McDaniel

Jennifer McDaniel is a Registered Dietitian, Media Spokesperson, and co-author of Prevention's Mediterranean Table Cookbook. She and her team of Registered Dietitians aim to help their clients go further, make change last, and unlock their potential. She lives in St. Louis, MO with her husband, and three young sons. If you are interested in working with Jennifer, please visit our contact page.